Are you “defiling” your marriage bed by the way you dress?

Being modest is an acknowledgement of honor to our creator, who commands us to dress discreetly and keep the marriage bed pure and undefiled.

That is not isolated to “do not sleep with someone else…”. If that were the case, He would not have told us “to look at a woman with lust, is to commit adultery”. Therefore, even just “looking” at someone else with lust, causes defilement of the marriage bed.

So on the flip, if you (the woman) are dressing immodestly, causing other men (other than your husband) to lust after you, just by the way you dress- you are inherently defiling your marriage bed.

We dress modestly out of respect for our husband and marriage and out of reverence for our Lord.

And while we’re at it…let’s address this notion that “women who are modest tend to be prudes”. It is simply inaccurate.

Because the woman who is modest, seeks to use discretion in the way she dresses, to honor her husband and the Lord, does NOT mean that she squanders the gift of sexuality. She simply knows the context in which it is to be held- all for her husband- within the covenant of marriage.

I’m so tired of hearing the argument “well, men need to control themselves. The way I dress has nothing to do with them…”

Yes, I do agree, there is responsibility on a man’s end, to “look away” but then there is the responsibility of the woman to avoid being a stumbling block. Maybe don’t cause the first glance to begin with?

No matter how quickly a man “bounces” his eyes away from you, he cannot predict when a “stumbling block” may happen to stroll along into his path.

Treat modesty as seriously as you treat adultery. You could be jeopardizing your marriage bed daily, and not even know it…just by dressing “how you want”, causing men to lust and stumble.

It’s an actual oxymoron if you become so angered by the thought of adultery all while you have no boundaries or accountability in regards to how you dress. Both routes lead to a defiled marital bed. Guard fiercely against that!

Proverbs 11:22

Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20

Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Timothy 2:9-10

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control

Proverbs 31:30

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Matthew 5:28

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.